Mom +Mother-in-Law +Weddings

Every girl dreams of her wedding day at one point in their life. Whether it's the dress or the flowers or the walking down the aisle; but what every girl doesn't dream about is the drama that comes with planning the wedding. Now if you didn't have drama when planning your wedding be thankful! As for the rest of the brides...this drama is normal. As hard as it is to accept this it is, beacause the moms (your mom and his mom) are only trying to help. After all, these two women who are driving you crazy carried you and your significant other for 9 months and stayed up with you when you were sick, slept by you when there were monsters under your bed. So it's very hard to tell your biggest supporter, the one person who always wants what's best for you, your best friend whom you can never lie to because she figures it out somehow and the first person who ever said "I Love You" to you to "Butt Out."
 Now what the moms tend to forget is that this is not their wedding, it is their kids wedding. They had their chance and regardless of whether they had their own wedding or not, it does not give them the right to make the decisions or force their opinions upon their kids. The moms want what's best for the kids but they need to realize that they did a wonderful job raising the soon to be married couple and all that will come into play at this time if they allow it to. They need to trust and listen to the kids and what they are saying.
 Another problem the engaged couple have with their parents is the money issue. I know different cultures have their own rules and regulations, for example if you're American the bride pays for the wedding traditionally or if your Armenian, the groom pays for the wedding, with a few exceptions, but regardless of who is paying, mom, dad, bride or groom that is not something which should be used as a bargaining tool for the parent(s) to get their way. If the parents want to pay, by all means, but that does not give mom the right to pick the colors of the bridesmaids, or the flowers or anything for that matter. Personally, I believe it should be the bride and groom tag teaming with the decisions(even if he doesn't care) and of course the moms and/or parents from both sides should be involved if they want to, but everyone just needs to remember who's wedding it really is.
So brides be patient. Usually if its the brides mom its easier for the bride to deal with her but if its the grooms mom remember, regardless of the situation, it's your fiance's mom and you should respect her and treat her just like you expect your fiance to respect and treat your mom. If it gets too out of control, depending on whose mother it is, you and/or your fiancé should sit and talk to that mom calmly explaining that she's being overbearing and hopefully she understands. Remember at the end all that matters is that you are marrying the love of your life! -Love is Amazing